Roblox Privacy & Chat Settings Checklist
Roblox has eight privacy settings that decide who can reach your child. They're all in one place, they take about ten minutes, and most accounts have them wide open by default.
Find these on your child's account under Settings → Privacy. Set the parent PIN first, or these can be changed straight back.
| Setting | What it controls | Under 13 | 13+ |
|---|---|---|---|
| Who can message me | Private messages sent to the account's inbox.Direct messages are where a conversation moves from public to private. This is the highest-value setting on the page. | No one | Friends |
| Who can chat with me in app | Chat outside of games — the Roblox app's own messaging. | No one | Friends |
| Who can join me | Whether other players can follow your child into whatever game they're in.Set to Everyone, a stranger can drop into your child's session at will. Very few kids need this on. | No one | Friends |
| Who can invite me to private servers | Invitations to unmoderated private servers.Private servers have no other players to witness anything. Invitations from strangers are worth blocking outright. | No one | Friends |
| Who can find me by email / phone | Whether the account is discoverable by contact details.There's no good reason to leave this open at any age. | No one | No one |
| Trade with me | Whether other players can send item trade requests.Trading is the single most common route to a Roblox scam. Off is a reasonable default. | No one | No one or Friends |
| Who can see my inventory | Whether the items and passes they own are public.A public inventory is how scammers identify which accounts are worth targeting. | Friends | Friends |
| Show my join date / friends | What's visible to anyone opening the profile. | Hidden | Friends |
The one that matters most
If you only change one thing, change who can message me. Almost every case of an adult building a relationship with a child on Roblox follows the same shape: meet in a game, move to private messages, then move off Roblox entirely. Closing the second step breaks the chain early, and it costs your child very little — their actual friends are on their friends list.
A note on the "Friends" setting
"Friends" sounds safe, and it's much better than "Everyone" — but it's only as good as the friends list behind it. Plenty of kids accept every request they get, which turns "Friends only" into something close to "Everyone who asked". It's worth going through the list together once, and asking who each person actually is. You can check any account here while you do it.
Do this with them, not to them
Settings changed quietly get discovered and reversed, or worked around with a second account you don't know about. Changes made in front of your child, with a reason attached, tend to survive. "I'm turning off messages from strangers because that's how people get scammed" lands very differently from a locked setting that appears one day without explanation.
Settings decide what's allowed. They don't tell you what happened.
RoGuard watches the account after the settings are set — new friends, bio changes, late-night sessions, and which games they're actually in.